I’m always open on tips on how to make marriage stronger. It’s either I seek advice from my parents or simply reading topic regarding marriage like this article I’m sharing from FemaleNetwork.com. Congresswoman and celebrity Lucy Torres-Gomez is sharing her views in building stronger marriage to Richard Gomez.
1. DON’T FORCE HIM TO BE SOMETHING HE’S NOT, AND ENCOURAGE HIM DO TO THE SAME WITH YOU.
According to the beautiful congresswoman, Lucy Torres-Gomez, don’t force him to change. ‘You can’t force him to be something he’s not’. Well, I’m guilty on this.
What I’m trying to change in my hubby is his disregard in TIME. Sometimes, he just takes advantage of time and it is something we can’t get back. But since, I realized that I can’t force him to be conscious with time like me, I gradually let him be.
But this has not been an issue within our marriage.
2. KEEP YOUR IDENTITIES, BUT HAVE ACTIVITIES YOU DO TOGETHER.
I agree with Lucy here. I let him do his activities and he lets me do mine. ;-) And at the end of the day, we both got interesting stories to share from what happened during the activities we didn’t do together. And we both eagerly listen.
3. TALK TO EACH OTHER.
We rarely have silent moments, that’s why he’s already complaining that I’m already making ‘kulit’ of him. Just like Lucy and Richard, we also talk any nonsense topics until to serious stuff in our relationship. But we also value having a quiet time together. No talking. ^_^
4. BE HIS FRIEND.
For me this is true. You can’t survive your marriage if your husband is not your best friend. My husband knows everything of me. We get embarrassed with some revelations about ourselves but the end, we’ll still laugh it out loud. Friends accepts each other; and my husband is my best friend.
5. COMMIT EVERY DAY.
We never get tired saying ‘I love you’s’ everyday. We don’t only say it once but many times all throughout the day. I even encourage Little Zoie to say ‘I love you’ to me and her dad, in which she’s already used too.
6. GIVE EACH OTHER SPACE.
I admit I am the hot-headed in this relationship. But if I realized that I was the one who made a mistake or misunderstood him, I’ll quickly make ‘lambing’ and apologize. Same goes to him. ^_^
7. LEARN FROM YOUR HUBBY.
There are a lot of things I get to learn from hubby every now and then. I also positioned him to be the one to remind me if I’m already crossing boundaries, since I tend to get hot-tempered at times especially if I am stressed out. He’s the one who never loses his cool, now that I realized…
I hope this tips for a stronger marriage helped you realize some things about your marriage…. I know I do. ^_^
Just cherish each other and love one another.